Wednesday, 1 October 2014

Ways to Reconcile After a Divorce

Looking back on lost love - reconciling after divorce

People get back together with their ex-spouse all the time. However, many variables determine whether a divorced couple will reconcile.
  • Length of time in marriage
Married couples who have been together for many years may find they have been through too much to leave it all behind after divorce. These feelings and reminiscent thoughts are what drive divorced couples back to each other to rekindle the passion and love they lost.
  • Types of relationship issues
The reasons why you decided to get a divorce has an impact on the chances of reconciliation. If a divorced couple lacked effective communication skills or lost the passion they once had, which caused the break up - reestablishment of the relationship could happen with some major work on the issues that were present during marriage. However, if the issues were devastating to either spouse such as abuse or infidelity, the chances of reconciliation are much smaller. It would take a great deal of counseling and work in the relationship to prove the adulterer or abuser is trustworthy and safe.
  • Children
The children are one of the biggest reasons why some people don't get divorced and is also a factor in getting back together. Most people want to give their children a loving two-parent household, so when the realization that this dream is no longer real takes hold, parents begin to contemplate reconciliation. In addition, with the continued connection between ex-spouses because of their children, some couples find they still do have feelings for each other after the turmoil from the separation subsides.